Positive Affirmations for Mothers and Single Mums

Parenting is hard! Single parenting is damn hard! If we can cut out the negative self talk and remind ourselves we are doing the best we can, our mental health will be better off for it! Here are more than 20 positive affirmations for mothers and single mums to help give you a more positive mindset.

Introduction

Mum guilt is real and I think we all experience that at some point on the motherhood journey, but single parenting is also really hard! There are struggles that are unique to single parenting that perhaps only other single parents will understand.

I’m a single mum of a 12 year old and I try to be the best mum I can be but quite honestly, I wouldn’t be human if I didn’t feel down sometimes and in need of a pep talk. Usually, it’s just me and my son, as single parenting doesn’t leave a lot of time for socialising, so sometimes that pep talk comes from.. well, me!

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Positive affirmations can make a big difference to the nature of our self talk and play a massive part in our overall mental wellbeing

What are Positive affirmations?

“Positive affirmations are positively loaded phrases, or statements that are used to challenge unhelpful or negative thoughts. People can use positive affirmations to motivate them, encourage positive changes in their life, or boost their self-esteem. It sounds simple, and quite frankly, it is!”

Catherine Moore, Psychologist, MBA PositivePsychology.com1

Positive affirmations are an opportunity to remind yourself you’re doing an amazing job as a mother! Practicing positive affirmations can help you become a more confident mother, it leads to positive self talk rather than having a negative, stressed out mindset. There is no such thing as a perfect mother, but the subconscious mind plays a huge part in our overall mental health and wellbeing2.

Positive statements and focusing on our positive qualities help to remind us we are making intentional parenting choices and trusting our maternal intuition3. It helps to rid our minds of having unrealistic expectations of ourselves and what we are capable of.

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There are several ways you can practice positive affirmations, so it’s just a matter of finding what works best for you

Ways to say your Positive affirmations

If standing in front of the mirror and reciting your positive affirmations doesn’t sound like your thing, there are several ways you can practice positive affirmations, so it’s just a matter of finding what works best for you. Here are some ideas:

  • Write them on post its and stick them on your mirror or fridge. Read them to yourself.
  • Say them out loud and record your voice saying them. Replay your own voice to yourself on your phone.
  • Read them aloud from your phone or a notebook and repeat them out loud.
  • Write them down in a notebook each day. Write different ones each day.
  • Sing them to yourself in a tune from a familiar song. Make yourself laugh from it!
  • Say them to yourself in the shower, in the car or when lying in bed.
  • Make a design on Canva with the affirmation and decorate it. Print it and frame it. Feature it in your home.
  • Recite them while exercising or while out, amongst nature
  • Recite them while meditating
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Just as the needs of our children matter, our own needs matter too!

Positive Affirmations for Mums

Here are some positive affirmations I have felt helpful to tell myself to remind myself that I’m doing the best I can. Sometimes I just read these on my phone, and for some of them, I’ve actually printed them to put them in a prominent place, as a daily reminder. You could jot them on post its, have notes on your fridge or behind the bathroom door!

I hope these affirmations help, and let me know if there’s any you would add here!

  • My body can create life
  • I am showing up 
  • Most days of the week, I’m doing the best I can. 
  • My kids are fed, sheltered, clothed and loved. 
  • I’m providing for my kids 
  • I make my kids laugh 
  • I make the right decisions for my kids 
  • I trust my instincts 
  • I’m a protector. I protect my kids from harm.
  • I am loved by my kids and I love them
  • I am worthy of love
  • I deserve time to practice self care
  • It takes courage and strength to be a single parent. 
  • Not every day is difficult. There will be hard days and hard moments. There will also be good days and great days. 
  • I am unique. I am me. My situation is different to others. I don’t need to compare myself to other mums. 
  • I can learn new things. I can learn hard things. 
  • It’s important, it’s necessary to take care of my physical and mental well-being. 
  • I can remind myself every day to look on the bright side, see the cup as half full and focus on the positives, and positive thoughts
  • I can dream big and work towards big goals 
  • Kids are messy, life is messy, but our self worth and our personal success doesn’t have to be reliant on cleaning up the mess. 
  • Everyone, including me and the kids can learn to practice gratitude and benefit from this practice. 
  • Life is often what happens when we’re busy making plans. Embrace today. Embrace the present. Live now, laugh just because, and don’t stress about things that haven’t happened yet. 
  • Happiness is a choice. We get to choose our emotions. We can teach our kids this simple concept too, and this improves emotional intelligence and awareness. 
  • Everyone makes mistakes. As adults, as parents, we are allowed to make mistakes and fail. They’re all learning opportunities. 
  • Mindset can be the difference between just surviving, and thriving. 
  • There is beauty in every day. If we choose to see it and enjoy it. Embrace the present moment.
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Write them down in a notebook, on post its, up to you!

Summary

You can practice positive affirmations every day, as part of your daily routine. Sure, we all get caught up in the busyness and details of our everyday life and routines but sometimes just one positive affirmation can make a huge difference and change our whole mindset for the day4.

We deserve to have a personal life – we are not ‘just a mom/mum’ – we are women, we are capable of amazing things and nobody expects perfection. Just as the needs of our children matter, our own needs matter too! No good can come from comparing yourself to other moms and then falling back into negative self-talk. You can read more about Self Talk HERE: https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/self-talk5

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We deserve to remind ourselves, to TELL ourselves with powerful affirmations that we are doing a wonderful job and we deserve a wonderful life!

Ultimately, it will probably make you a better mother too..

Reference List:

  1. Positive Daily Affirmations: Is There Science Behind It?, Catherine Moore, Positive Psychology.com. Published: Mar 4, 2019. Accessed online at https://positivepsychology.com/daily-affirmations/#:~:text=Positive%20affirmations%20are%20positively%20loaded,and%20quite%20frankly%2C%20it%20is! on May 6, 2023.
  2. The power of Your Subconscious Mind, Vitality Unleashed Psychology. Published: April 21, 2023. Accessed online at https://www.vitalityunleashed.com.au/the-power-of-your-subconscious-mind-2/ on May 6, 2023.
  3. The Science of a Mother’s Intuition, Dr. Habib Sadeghi, Medium.com. Published: Sep 26, 2019. Accessed online at https://medium.com/@drsadeghi/the-science-of-a-mothers-intuition-d17ff4577d04 on May 6, 2023.
  4. Do Positive Affirmations Work?, Sarah Barkley, Psych Central. Published: April 17, 2023. Accessed online at https://psychcentral.com/health/why-positive-affirmations-dont-work on May 6, 2023.
  5. Self-talk, Health Direct. Accessed online at https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/self-talk on May 6, 2023.

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